It’s been a while since I’ve written and it’s because I’ve been resisting it. The title might give you a hint as to why I’m having such a hard time.
If you know me well, you know that I can never hide my true feelings and my emotions of what I am experiencing. Right now I am having incredible joy. Retirement is far better than what I anticipated. I’m able to make sourdough bread every week, plan menus, and cook healthy meals, do my laundry whenever I need to, and sleep whenever I want.
I’m enjoying house cleaning and nesting and gardening. I had no idea that this was all so much fun and wonderful. I am reaping the benefits of this self-care by weight loss and some of my blood work is really good.
So then, what is the problem? It is this. I’m so blessed and yet I see so much pain and agony all around me. Reading the news makes me distraught and angry.The injustices and the climate issues are frightening.
I’m not used to having such blessings. This past week I was talking to our son JORDAN about my struggle with it. He said, “Mom you have spent your whole life serving others now it’s time to serve yourself.”
Wise words, indeed, but remember, I was raised in a culture, a very conservative Christian culture, that told me to die to self. The one family with whom I lived, would not even let us have a mirror because to look in a mirror was to be vain. We were not allowed to have musical instruments because they were of the devil and could be used for wickedness like dancing. It was a sin to spend money on one’s self unless absolutely necessary. It took me many years to love myself and it is no wonder that God called me to serve others because there is my strength that came amid all that negativity.
I absolutely loved being a pastor, and while it was exhausting, it was also energizing and led me to deep spiritual depths that I might not have otherwise experienced. I was blessed to have a window into the lives of others as we both impacted each other in finding the holy in every moment.
Then why is it so hard for me to accept these blessings? Daryl and I have worked since we were 15 years old. We have scrimped and saved and often worked two and three jobs at a time. We tried to be generous and continually support several other families financially.
I’ve never thought of myself as keeping score with God, that if I bless others, God will bless me. However, this season of my life so far is beyond my wildest expectations. I actually thought I’d never get here.
When I was diagnosed with cancer, the second time I begged God to let me live until retirement. And now I am thriving. Yes there are still medical issues and I’m seeing a ton of specialists to try to deal with them, but for the most part every day is a miracle.
Sometimes DARYL and I look at each other and say we have to pinch ourselves to make sure this is real.
But then there’s that little guilt lurking thinking maybe I shouldn’t have it so nice. Wondering if those of you who are reading this will think that I’m too extravagant.
I can’t quite reconcile at all yet, but I’m gonna tell you I am going to revel in it. My family is so supportive of us and encourages me to just accept the blessings and the reward of our labors.
I know too that with blessing comes responsibility. DARYL and I are finding ways to share what we have with others.
I’m not ready to sign on any board yet, I’m not ready to be on a committee. It’s just too soon. I’m catching my breath and asking God to let me be her servant.
Thank you all for being here for me as you always have been, through thick and thin you have been the extraordinary blessing in my life. May something marvelously surprising give you joy today. Love to you all, Bonnie Lee.
Our last night in Asheville, North Carolina ended up being quite eventful. As we were ready to go to bed a big storm came up. DARYL went outside to put the awning down so that it wouldn’t blow in the wind. All of a sudden it wouldn’t work. No matter how hard he tried, he could not get the latch to work. So he tilted the side the best he could so the rain would run off of it and the wind wouldn’t catch it. 
Well, today was most unusual. We drove from Nashville to Asheville and what a time we had.
So the Day began with me talking to God about my RV. I said “God if you’re interested in being a mechanic today, could you please fix my cruise control?” Now I know for some of you this might seem sacrilegious. However, I talk to God about everything. Little things, big things, hurts, joys; you name it and I talk to God about it! God is big enough to hear it. Now I don’t actually think God played mechanic today, but I have to tell you that my cruise control worked. What a major blessing. So what did I do? I thanked God! 
Today was a rather long and weary one. We drove from Saint Joseph, Missouri to St. Louis, Missouri. The scenery was pretty much the same the whole way. However, this is a photo that DARYL took of me in the van driving and you can see the beautiful clouds. Aren’t they magnificent!?!

Well, if you’ve been following our continuing saga, you will know that I chose a campground a few nights ago that turned out to be not suitable at all. Well today we had a winner. This is called AOK campground and it is definitely OK. You can see from the photo our beautiful site on the little pond. It also has a great swimming pool where we cooled off after a hot day of driving.
Today was a rather quiet day. We drove from Laramie, Wyoming to Kearney, Nebraska. It was one of our longest days for driving. As you can see from the first picture, we needed some respite after all those miles. So there is DARYL with his favorite blonde.
Well, I suppose every adventure has to have a wild side to it. Today was surely that. It started out beautifully, but we soon hit a lot of wind in Wyoming. It was so windy that I-80 was closed to campers weighing less than 20,000 pounds. We are fortunate that we have an RV and it actually does weigh more than 20,000 pounds when loaded so we were OK. But the wind was wicked and I had to drive slower than I hoped. But Tranquility held her own and we did fine. The fiasco started when we arrived at our campsite. 

Well, it’s a really good thing that there was so much beauty on our drive today. Because the political situation really ticked me off. Since DARYL and I are driving separately, I had my own little session with God and all of the Saints. I wrestled for a while, but the beauty of what I was seeing as I drove, shook the anger away.
